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Nonviolent Communication Feelings Inventory (derived from cnvc):

Expressing feelings defuses their intensity (Kircanski) and being understood enhances intimacy. Feelings change auditory sensitivity (UPenn).
How to use feeling words: 'I feel xxxx' needs to be honored fully, and the most connecting reply begins with: "I understand you feel xxxx".

Caveats:
'it feels' is impersonal and inanimate;
'I feel that' is an opinion which displaces the feeling to being equivalent to 'it feels';
'I don't feel' negates and fails to indicate what it really is; rephrasing to the positive form is more rewarding.
'you make me feel....' is an accusation that lacks responsibilty for one's own history leading to the present moment;
'You feel....' is out of bounds, it simply accuses and distances, speak for yourself;
'I want/need' is more useful/constructive than accusation

Body Map of Emotions - map -

A. Good feelings we experience when our needs ARE being met   B. Bad feelings we experience when our needs are NOT met
confident
hopefulinspired
happy
surprise
exhilarated
grateful
affectionate
engaged
generous
peaceful
refreshed
 
fear
vulnerable
embarrassed
sad

annoyed
angry
disturbed
disgust

confused
disconnected
needy
tense
fatigue
pain

 

A. Good feelings we may experience when our needs ARE being met.

CONFIDENT
Bold
Determined
Empowered
Open
Proud
Safe
Secure
Strong
Sure
Superior

HOPEFUL
Affirmative
Expectant
Encouraged
Optimistic
Wish for
Eventive
Anticipative

INSPIRED
Amazed
Awed
Dynamic
Wonder
Imaginative
Inventive

HAPPY
increase perceive
Amused
Bliss
Cheerful
Delighted
Enchanted
Glad
Glorious
Joy
Jubilant
Pleased
Tickled
Upbeat

EXCITED
Amazed
Animated
Ardent
Aroused
Astonished
Eager
Energetic
Enthusiastic
Euphoric
Giddy
Impassioned
Invigorated
Lively
Passionate
Surprise
Vibrant

EXHILARATED
Dazzled
Delirious
Ecstatic
Elated
Enthralled
Exuberant
Radiant
Rapturous
Thrilled

GRATEFUL
Appreciative
Gratified
Moved
Thankful
Touched
Triumphant

AFFECTIONATE
Aroused
Compassionate
Friendly
Loving
Open hearted
Sympathetic
Tender
Warm

ENGAGED
Absorbed
Alert
Attracted
Curious
Engrossed
Enchanted
Entranced
Fascinated
Interested
Intrigued
Involved
Loved
Receptive
Spellbound
Stimulated

GENEROUS
Altruistic
Benevolent
Charitable
Considerate
Cooperative
Neighborly
Respectful
Admiration

PEACEFUL
Bliss
Calm
Clear headed
Comfortable
Centered
Contented
Fulfilled
Mellow
Quiet
Relaxed
Relieved
Satisfied
Serene
Still
Tranquil
Trusting

REFRESHED
Clean
Enlivened
Rejuvenated
Renewed
Rested
Restored
Revived


B. Bad feelings we may experience when our needs are NOT being met.

AFRAID/FEAR
legs flight
Alarmed
Apprehensive
Dread
Foreboding
Frightened
Mistrustful
Panicked
Petrified
Scared
Suspicious
Tense
Terrified
Threatened
Wary
Worried

VULNERABLE
Fragile
Frail
Guarded
Helpless
Insecure
Leery
Sensitive
Shaky
Trapped
Victimized
Weak

EMBARRASSED
Ashamed
Chagrined
Flustered
Guilty
Humiliated
Mortified
Regretful
Remorseful
Self-conscious
Shamed
Sorry

SAD
Depressed
Dejected
Despair
Despondent
Disappointed
Discouraged
Disheartened
Forlorn
Gloomy
Grieving
Grumpy
Heavy hearted
Hopeless
Melancholy
Moody
Somber
Unhappy
Wretched

DISTURBED
Agitated
Astonished
Discombobulated
Disconcerted
Perturbed
Rattled
Restless
Shock
Startled
Surprise
Troubled
Turbulent
Turmoil
Uncomfortable
Uneasy
Unnerved
Unsettled
Upset

ANNOYED
Aggravated
Dismayed
Disgruntled
Displeased
Exasperated
Frustrated
Impatient
Irritated
Irked
Offended
Tormented

ANGRY
arms to fight
Enraged
Furious
Incensed
Indignant
Irate
Livid
Outraged
Resentful
Vengeful
Defiant
Belligerent

AVERSION
Animosity
Appalled
Contempt
Disgusted
Dislike
Distrust
Hateful
Horrified
Hostile
Repulsed
Rebellious
Resistant

SUSPICION
Betrayed
Distrust
Violated
Wronged


CONFUSED
Ambivalent
Baffled
Concerned
Bewildered
Dazed
Disoriented
Hesitant
Lost
Mystified
Perplexed
Puzzled
Torn

DISCONNECTED
Aloof
Apathetic
Bored
Cold
Detached
Distant
Distracted
Indifferent
Numb
Removed
Reserved
Uninterested
Withdrawn
Cynical
Shy
Isolated
Unimportant
Unloved

REJECTED
Abandoned
Alienated
Cutoff
Castoff
Discarded
Deserted
Disregarded

NEEDY
Envious
Jealous
Longing
Nostalgic
Pining
Wistful
Yearning
Cheated
Obsessed
Desperate
Defective
TENSE(like Fear)
Anxious
Cranky
Distressed
Distraught
Edgy
Fidgety
Frazzled
Irritable
Jittery
Nervous
Overwhelmed
Queasy
Restless
Stressed
Serious
Wound-up

FATIGUE
Beat
Burned out
Complacent
Depleted
Exhausted
Lethargic
Listless
Sleepy
Tired
Weary
Worn out

PAIN
decrease freeze
Agony
Attacked
Anguished
Bereaved
Devastated
Grief
Heartbroken
Hurt
Lonely
Miserable
Cheated


Needs:
Acceptance, Appreciation, Respect, Praise, Love, Liked, Needed, Valued, Attention,
Understood, Happiness, Achievement, Accuracy, Right, Order, Consistency, Control
Comfort, Safe, Peaceful,
Freedom, Independence, Adventure, Risk, Balance

Words we use for emotions and physical sensations - a starting place for the process of deepening self-discovery and to facilitate greater understanding and connection between people - a process created by Marshall B Rosenberg, PhD.

And then there's the question of how important the emotional words are?

Emotion classification: wiki -
anger-guilty distinction

Organs emotions concentrate in: paardekooper - energybalancing - tierney - bliss - haire - celestial -

Overestimating failure: Gosling -

Emotionsin20thCentury Books - affectiveSounds -

Happiness = Health + Freedom (Scott Adams)

Music-color-feeling-synesthesia: palmer - hitsongThemes: loss, desire, aspiration, breakup, pain, inspiration, nostalgia, rebellion, jaded, desperation, escapism, confusion -

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