cnvc: Feelings Inventory

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Nonviolent Communication Feelings Inventory (derived from cnvc):

Expressing feelings defuses their intensity (Kircanski) and being understood enhances intimacy. Feelings change auditory sensitivity (UPenn).
How to use feeling words: 'I feel xxxx' needs to be honored fully, and the most connecting reply begins with: "I understand you feel xxxx".

Caveats:
'it feels' is impersonal and inanimate;
'I feel that' is an opinion which displaces the feeling to being equivalent to 'it feels';
'I don't feel' negates and fails to indicate what it really is; rephrasing to the positive form is more rewarding.
'you make me feel....' is an accusation that lacks responsibilty for one's own history leading to the present moment;
'You feel....' is out of bounds, it simply accuses and distances, speak for yourself;
'I want/need' is more useful/constructive than accusation

Body Map of Emotions - map -

A. Good feelings we experience when our needs ARE being met

B. Bad feelings we experience when our needs are NOT met

confident
hopeful inspired
happy

surprise
exhilarated
grateful

affectionate
engaged
generous

peaceful
refreshed

fear
vulnerable
embarrassed
sad

annoyed
angry
disturbed
disgust

confused
disconnected
needy

tense
fatigue
pain

A. Good feelings we may experience when our needs ARE being met.
CONFIDENT Bold Determined Empowered Open Proud Safe Secure Strong Sure Superior HOPEFUL Affirmative Expectant Encouraged Optimistic Wish for Eventive Anticipative INSPIRED Amazed Awed Dynamic Wonder Imaginative Inventive HAPPY increase perceive Amused Bliss Cheerful Delighted Enchanted Glad Glorious Joy Jubilant Pleased Tickled Upbeat	EXCITED Amazed Animated Ardent Aroused Astonished Eager Energetic Enthusiastic Euphoric Giddy Impassioned Invigorated Lively Passionate Surprise Vibrant EXHILARATED Dazzled Delirious Ecstatic Elated Enthralled Exuberant Radiant Rapturous Thrilled GRATEFUL Appreciative Gratified Moved Thankful Touched Triumphant	AFFECTIONATE Aroused Compassionate Friendly Loving Open hearted Sympathetic Tender Warm ENGAGED Absorbed Alert Attracted Curious Engrossed Enchanted Entranced Fascinated Interested Intrigued Involved Loved Receptive Spellbound Stimulated GENEROUS Altruistic Benevolent Charitable Considerate Cooperative Neighborly Respectful Admiration	PEACEFUL Bliss Calm Clear headed Comfortable Centered Contented Fulfilled Mellow Quiet Relaxed Relieved Satisfied Serene Still Tranquil Trusting REFRESHED Clean Enlivened Rejuvenated Renewed Rested Restored Revived

B. Bad feelings we may experience when our needs are NOT being met.
AFRAID/FEAR legs flight Alarmed Apprehensive Dread Foreboding Frightened Mistrustful Panicked Petrified Scared Suspicious Tense Terrified Threatened Wary Worried VULNERABLE Fragile Frail Guarded Helpless Insecure Leery Sensitive Shaky Trapped Victimized Weak EMBARRASSED Ashamed Chagrined Flustered Guilty Humiliated Mortified Regretful Remorseful Self-conscious Shamed Sorry SAD Depressed Dejected Despair Despondent Disappointed Discouraged Disheartened Forlorn Gloomy Grieving Grumpy Heavy hearted Hopeless Melancholy Moody Somber Unhappy Wretched	DISTURBED Agitated Astonished Discombobulated Disconcerted Perturbed Rattled Restless Shock Startled Surprise Troubled Turbulent Turmoil Uncomfortable Uneasy Unnerved Unsettled Upset ANNOYED Aggravated Dismayed Disgruntled Displeased Exasperated Frustrated Impatient Irritated Irked Offended Tormented ANGRY arms to fight Enraged Furious Incensed Indignant Irate Livid Outraged Resentful Vengeful Defiant Belligerent AVERSION Animosity Appalled Contempt Disgusted Dislike Distrust Hateful Horrified Hostile Repulsed Rebellious Resistant SUSPICION Betrayed Distrust Violated Wronged	CONFUSED Ambivalent Baffled Concerned Bewildered Dazed Disoriented Hesitant Lost Mystified Perplexed Puzzled Torn DISCONNECTED Aloof Apathetic Bored Cold Detached Distant Distracted Indifferent Numb Removed Reserved Uninterested Withdrawn Cynical Shy Isolated Unimportant Unloved REJECTED Abandoned Alienated Cutoff Castoff Discarded Deserted Disregarded NEEDY Envious Jealous Longing Nostalgic Pining Wistful Yearning Cheated Obsessed Desperate Defective	TENSE(like Fear) Anxious Cranky Distressed Distraught Edgy Fidgety Frazzled Irritable Jittery Nervous Overwhelmed Queasy Restless Stressed Serious Wound-up FATIGUE Beat Burned out Complacent Depleted Exhausted Lethargic Listless Sleepy Tired Weary Worn out PAIN decrease freeze Agony Attacked Anguished Bereaved Devastated Grief Heartbroken Hurt Lonely Miserable Cheated

Needs:
Acceptance, Appreciation, Respect, Praise, Love, Liked, Needed, Valued, Attention,
Understood, Happiness, Achievement, Accuracy, Right, Order, Consistency, Control
Comfort, Safe, Peaceful,
Freedom, Independence, Adventure, Risk, Balance

Words we use for emotions and physical sensations - a starting place for the process of deepening self-discovery and to facilitate greater understanding and connection between people - a process created by Marshall B Rosenberg, PhD.

And then there's the question of how important the emotional words are?

Emotion classification: wiki -
anger-guilty distinction

Organs emotions concentrate in: paardekooper - energybalancing - tierney - bliss - haire - celestial -

Overestimating failure: Gosling -

Emotionsin20thCentury Books - affectiveSounds -

Happiness = Health + Freedom (Scott Adams)

Music-color-feeling-synesthesia: palmer - hitsongThemes: loss, desire, aspiration, breakup, pain, inspiration, nostalgia, rebellion, jaded, desperation, escapism, confusion -

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